For my Pop,
This is what I wrote & read to my father not so long ago.
For the last few months I have thought more and more about wanting to sit with you and say what I am about to. Instead I being the writer have written those words and will read it, as hopefully I shall find this easier.
What can a daughter say to her father, that I love you totally? Admire your courage to survive your upbringing, your strength to conquer against all odds your escape during the war. Your tenacity to fight for a better life, not only for yourself but for my mother and your children.
You are a man of dignity and honesty. You have been and still are a wonderful husband to mum and a truly devoted and loving father to your children. You have always been there to support and encourage and give me much-needed advice. You have been the disciplinarian when needed when I was younger, the confidant as I grew and the person I could rely on.
Every daughter will say their father is the best, but of you it is true. It is a pity we don’t ‘know’ the man before they became our father, as I would have liked to have known you in your youth, or a young man, but then again are you so different from then to now? As life rolls by I have so many memories of you and my life is the better for it. I would not change one moment, nor one day.
I have wanted to say these things to you for sometime and even though I pray with my entire being that you will be with me for many years to come, reality means that may not be so. This is why I say this to you now, because I do not want to miss the opportunity of not being able to tell you. I adore you Pop, you will always be with me on this earth or when your time comes to leave it. Perhaps believe in the ever after, so that I can still talk to you and know that you are around me. No words shall comfort my grief or pain when you are not here to talk to or laugh with. I shall remember playing childhood games with you, I shall remember sharing a loaf of bread and a full piece of salami in a car with you and not having anything to cut them with. Our memories will being a smile to my heart. I love you unconditionally and respect you as my father and as a human being.
You have brought me up well and taught me well and for that I am eternally grateful.
You are in my heart and so much a part of me, that tears well in my eyes as I write these words.
But I wanted to say them – had to say them. I am so proud to be your daughter and even more proud that you Pop are my father. So with this I close, I wipe the tears and I vow to spend as much time with you as I can. I love you.
I shared this with you, to implore those that may read it, to say what they feel to their parents, before the chance has been taken from you. I did and I have made peace within myself, that when his time does come he will know my thoughts and how much I love him. I held his hand and struggled with the tears as I read this to him, but I had the opportunity to do so and for that I am happy.
Remember the lyrics to Mike and the Mechanics Song The Living Years-
I wasn't there that morning When my Father passed away I didn't get to tell him All the things I had to say
Both you and your da are lucky that you have taken this opportunity You da must be proud of you …as you are of him.
I had a hard time not crying myself, as you told this story.
Good on you. Tis a good think you have done.
Bless you & thank you. Yes, I am extremely proud (and I love the Irish word da for father) haven’t heard it in a while.
I sometimes forget …and type how I am thinking.
Is there a…Australian word … colloquial for father?
Not really – just plain dad & please don’t stop typing how you are thinking 🙂
I wrote to my Dad when I was but a teen and made it into a plaque then again in 2000 when I was so very thankful then the next day I should have died funny how we both had awesome Dads and we told them so for that I will forever be grateful as well.
That was a beautiful idea to put it in a plaque. I think many of us do not say what is in our heart early enough. Then we spend time in regret. Yes pop keeps the card I wrote next to his bed and I hope now and then he reads the words to know how much I love and admire him. Thank you for visiting Eun and your kind words. xx
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We are the lucky girls we had/have the BEST DADS!
Hi sweet – I am glad you feel that way! 🙂
Yes each dad to each little girl is the most adored and the most special of men. 🙂 x
Well in our world they are it is all I could ever wish for any little girl to have.
🙂 me too x
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Well in our world they are it is all I could ever wish for any little girl to have.
A beautiful tribute to your father RM. What a wonderful man he is. Treasure him he will always be with you.
He truly is a wonderful human being, father and man. Thank you so much Summer for reading. I shall treasure him for always and beyond.