We have them but do we really need them?

Neighbours yes..those of  you that live in suburbia (as I do) and not on some vast acreage swamped either side by rolling green hills adorned with daisies or sunflowers as tall as your good self, but live in streets, courts, places, cull de sacs, roads, avenues, ways, drives (I think you’re getting the drift).

Wouldn’t it be lovely if one could choose who they live next to.

To our left we have the 2 child, 2 parent typically domestic household. Every now & then the good woman of the house raises her voice to tick off one of her boys. Every now & then one of the boys will throw his tennis ball/basket-ball over our fence, then the knock  comes on the door.

As soon as I see his face slightly hidden behind the fly-wire screen door, it drops, for I know that I shall have to go & retrieve like some blood-hound on the chase.  Albeit now & then we say  “Hi” in our adjoining driveways, or pop in to borrow steal a cup of sugar (well I mean whoever does return sugar) & it’s all pleasant & non committal.

Across the road I know one family again 2 parents, 3 children older and lovely people. In fact we did socialise quite a bit with them, them over for drinks us over there & that continued for some time, unfortunately she is not well so the socialising has petered out, but we still exchange a smile, a wave, or a quick walk to meet in the middle of our court to catch up.

To the right of us, well how do I put this delicately..ok I can’t. The neighbours from hell would aptly describe them.

I have lived here now since 1998 (you do the maths I’m no good at it). For quite some years their 2 children lived at home (now they have moved on) they are of ethnic descent (still really haven’t figured out what) & as we know they can be shall I say a little volatile?

The screaming matches between the two adults (yes they were adults) either by themselves or with their offspring drove us to distraction. Our deck is on the side where rather unfortunately their social area & living room is, so we would hear absolutely every word that was screamed or yelled across their house….it drifted upon the sound waves to our place and on occasion when we were having a BBQ and entertaining people on the deck. Yes they are extremely loud and took no thought about “Keep it down what will the neighbours think”. They clearly didn’t. Now and then we got so angry we would yell back “Keep it down, or do you mind, or for gods sake enough”. We would in turn get “you keep it down, or no, or shut up”. We gave up, they did not want to hear our pleas for mercy and continued their ranting. In fact even when they are not arguing they are LOUD.   😦

On one occasion we had to call the police in…yes it got that bad.

They also owned a beautiful Labrador (who was very old), who spent his life outside on the concrete. In winter no bedding, in summer barely any water (and yes the RSPCA) was also called. They had a ‘token’ small plastic bowl of water and if any one knows how a Labrador drinks, that can be splashed away in 2 laps. He was not walked the entire time I have been here, he didn’t see the outside world (until I offered to walk him) which I did for some time. As the years went past he grew more feeble and I couldn’t bare it any longer that they were neglecting him & again the RSPCA were called. This time they were advised that he be put to sleep as he could not stand on his arthritic legs anymore. Thankfully (at the age of 17- which is very old for a Lab) that is what happened.

I didn’t borrow a cup of sugar from them, in the beginning we would say hi over the fence or if were putting the bins out at the same time. Now we don’t communicate, I think they know it was I who phoned the authorities and I don’t care one bit. I did what was necessary for their poor ‘pet’ to relieve him of his suffering.

There are 14 houses in my court where I live, I speak to 2 of them now and then, the others I do not know about them, who they are, how they live (we are quite a secluded little bunch).

If you have good neighbours that you can rely on to really ‘mind your house when you are on holidays’, or ‘take your mail in’ and who genuinely are helpful, law abiding and friendly then more power to you…they are difficult to find.

If you have like I do, a couple of neighbours that you can smile or wave to & have a brief catch up chat or borrow steal that cup of sugar more power to me.

I should be happy they aren’t like some neighbours that fossick through your cast offs from your hard rubbish collection….then again that little mission could be tackled under the cover of darkness..

I would like the rolling fields either side…a place where I could keep horses and ride and watch the morning sun rise over the hills, but of course there would have to be a shopping centre close by, because  like the words to Bing Crosby’s song…..

Oh, give me land, lots of land under starry skies
Don’t fence me in
Let me ride through the wide open country that I love
Don’t fence me in
Let me be by myself in the evenin’ breeze
And listen to the murmur of the cottonwood trees
Send me off forever but I ask you please
Don’t fence me in

Just turn me loose, let me straddle my old saddle
Underneath the western skies
On my Cayuse, let me wander over yonder
Till I see the mountains rise
Ba boo ba ba boo

I want to ride to the ridge where the west commences
And gaze at the moon till I lose my senses
And I can’t look at hobbles and I can’t stand fences
Don’t fence me in
Poppa, don’t you fence me in

& I can’t live in total isolation now can I…

Courtesy rgbstock photos and google

My 90th blog “Taa-Daaaaaa”  🙂 and courtesys.

16 thoughts on “We have them but do we really need them?

  1. Wow Mumsy! ..89th blog…Go you!! *smiling*

    We’ve lived in the same house for 14 years just like you! *spooky* Luckily for us we have great neighbors!
    Left,right and behind are all dentists! *laughing* Teeth cleaned anyone? Lol Directly in front? Stockbroker! Stressful jobs and No one raises their voice. My husband would like to live in an apartment. He wants a smaller house as we are only here during the week. Not me!..No Way!! for all the reasons you write about. It only takes 1 to make your home hell! So standing my ground for now!
    as for the future? who know’s! xxxxxxxxx

    • LOL – I had to correct it was my 90th but thank you for the go you *laughing*
      14 (counts on fingers & toes) so it is.
      Wish I had dentists – it’s my home away from home!
      Ahh peace & serenity how good would that be!!
      Things may change for us too and we may move, but in the interim..I’m investing in a good pair of ear-plugs!
      Thanks honey

  2. I loved your POST!

    I too could do a show and tell on the ONLY neighbor I must deal with well really I no longer do. Sad two females who were once so friendly then again we probably really were not. Life got so bad I just gave in to closing a blind eye well no longer I’M BACK standing up for WHAT IS RIGHT good for you! The animals need us out there to love them and speak up for them Rock On!

    • Hi ‘Nuts’ thank you for stopping by and loving my post – how kind of you 🙂

      From what you briefly wrote doesn’t sound like a sturdy friendship was ever there 😦
      Yes I will never regret what I did to help him.
      They were clueless when it came to having a pet, they would never even pat him or cuddle.
      So I shall rock on and stick my beak in, if I feel it justified.


      • YEAY I got the dog before JT the same way while visiting a friend I saw this Husky mix older looking dog always in a 10 X10 foot cage and usually barking 😦
        So I asked my friend who was neighbors with the people who owned it to call them on the phone and asked if they really wanted Maxine that was her name, and if they did not want her could I have her? Their response was “Tell her to come over for her we will get her leash!” The dog never went in a cage again them #@%!&@#% 😦
        So we have to do our part for those who can’t THE ANIMALS

        You are right about neighbors, friends and family some just are never what they seem to be 😦

  3. Mumsy, all that noise, how on earth do you do it? You did the right thing for their pet. We have some kind neighbors, some not so kind but you’ve got to take the good with the bad. Our neighborhood is quite diverse and friendly for the most part. Oooh I love that this is your 90th post – you rock!

    • Taking the good with the bad is the way we survive **laughing**
      Morning /evening MM – yes I think I did the right thing also, I couldn’t see him suffer anymore. 😦
      Thank you for saying I rock 🙂 I’m just a blabber at heart so it’s hard to stop me! 🙂
      You are kind & sweet.

  4. Our neighbours are pretty good at the moment (we’ve had some shockers as well), but we will have the rolling hills in January next year when we move back to the farm! 😀

  5. oh the neighbors…can’t live with then can’t live without them……I walk my dog, Missy, aka the princess so that is how I get to meet some of my neighbors. My next door neighbors are great—the two young girls feed my cats when I am away—–the grandmother is the one that grates on my nerves—but all in all I live in a mostly quiet street…..

  6. Ahhh…sorry for the one that causes you grief. My neighbors are lovely … though I wish I knew more of them better. We once had a block party ….that was fun … but when I lived at another locale.

    Growing up … it was in the area where no one was around us for a long ways … I love that…and want to get there again one day.

    • Wouldn’t it be lovely just to have the solitude..but still within distance to a Shopping Centre as I don’t think I could do the ‘farm’ thing as much as rolling acres of land and horses would be my ideal! I am glad you are blessed with good neighbours 🙂 xxx

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