Blog Etiquette- The 10 Commandments from the reader and the writer’s prospective – 400th Post

with the words of Pink …”Who Knew”

Indeed who would have ever thought that I would reach this, that @ the 4th April, 2013 I would have 262 followers in the space of under a year and blah blah visits (half of them probably lost with my obscure tags). I feel I have my feet firmly planted on Mt Sinai about to give the 10 commandments.

Perhaps I shall (though a little longer than Moses delivered)

1. Always be grateful and acknowledge those that follow you. They have taken their time to ‘look into’ your posts and have decided that they like and are interested in what you have to offer. Even if it is not immediate – take the time to read who you follow, we are human, we all like a pat on the back or acknowledgment for what we do. Do not be so self-centered to think that your post is the only one that matters or brag endlessly about the amount you have accumulated. .. *yawn*. Be at least genuine and sincere. Likewise if you are following someone and you have commented time after time and they do not visit you, or acknowledge your existence, then it is up to you whether to ‘pull the pin’ for this in a way is a two way street i.e. Reciprocate.

2. Always when possible, leave a comment to what they have written, for they have spent their time, their energy and their love in writing to be read by YOU. To ignore is rude, so show them that you care. Get to really know these people whenever possible, not in a ‘stalking way‘, but to show that you are interested not only in their writing but them as a human being, you have some affinity with them through their words. How nice would it be to develop a friendship albeit virtual?

3. Always be sincere in your comments, too many, at times have a line that is continually used and it is noticed from one post to another. If you feel you cannot really comment on what the post means to you, then simply hit the like button, that will suffice and in fact, to the writer is better than seeing the ‘same old line’, as it leaves us with the question of “Did they actually read my words”?. This applies to those that hit the like button within 1 second of you hitting the publish button…

4. Always remember that at times, people do not want or indeed have the time to read terribly long posts. I have been guilty of this on more than one occasion, it is difficult to reign in your thoughts, but perhaps a better idea (note to self) is to break it down into one or two. Doing this will also hopefully, keep your reader interested and want to come back for more. This is not greed for ‘hits’, this is simply providing a service of not boring your followers so much that they would inevitably ‘un-follow’ you.

5. Always be kind and considerate in your comments, this forum does not need vicious or vindictive remarks. Critique is justified in a caring manner, do not be obnoxious when pointing this out. Corrections to grammar and spelling are warranted. I have been ‘pulled up’ a few times and I am thankful to those that that have noticed an error and have advised me of such, it only improves my writing.

6. Always be aware that your readers/followers or newcomers have read you for a reason, be exhilarated that they have decided to follow you because of what you have written. In my case some follow because they like Haiku, others for prose, others simply for me just rambling about my life and being a mum. Each follower so vastly different from another. What intrigues or interests one, will not necessarily intrigue another and that is OK.

7. Always remember there is a market for everybody that runs a ‘blog’, people with different interests, different values, different stories to tell, each of us, unique, each of us bringing an idea, a thought, guidance or humour that we wish to share with the world. Do not feel ashamed that you have followers that you don’t follow…for each of us are attracted to different writers. I have followers that I don’t follow, but time allowing, I will pop in now and then to read what they are doing.

8. Always write from your heart, about your passions, your knowledge, your loves. Encourage those that feel they cannot write poetry to do so, or write from the ‘dark side’ or the melancholy or try a Haiku! Β We all learn from one another, we therefore should appreciate those that can step ‘outside the box’ from their ‘normal’ writing.

9. Always, no matter what genre you choose, maintain your sense of decency, your individuality and your talent, do not be persuaded to follow what others do because it may be popular. Don’t jump on the band wagon, simply because you see that they have a ‘gazillion’ followers. You are what you are, you write because you have your own story to tell.

10. ALWAYS be yourself, do not write under pretence, write what you love, feel secure in that those that follow are genuinely interested in what you have written and show them the respect that they deserve. Yes, it is a time consuming but manageable process to follow, to read, to comment, to then write your own work. Comments do not have to be done within a second of posting (refer to commandment 3). Β I have followers who are now going back through the archives to read older posts. That to me is reassuring, comforting and pleasing. Knowing that they are taking the time to do so. Remember this is NOT a competition, though some of us enter into challenges, we are not doing this to win the race of the best blog or to be ‘Freshly Pressed’. I am just comfy being myself Wrinkled and all, thank you very much.

So now I remind myself of # 4 and close – I thank you for reading and following me. Β Without wanting to make any one violently ill – YOU ARE ALL PRECIOUS TO ME.

Reblogging – welcomed and appreciated…spread the love πŸ™‚

*If I have contradicted myself in the aforementioned Commandments – Β you can blame the demon drink. 😦

38 thoughts on “Blog Etiquette- The 10 Commandments from the reader and the writer’s prospective – 400th Post

  1. Congrats Rambles! This is a great list and totally reflective of your multifaceted talents and blog. The reason your blog is successful is you write and comment from the heart. A perfect example of the bulk of your 10 Commandments. And what do you know, no burning bush in site. Keep blogging on, Rambles your work touches many.

    • Thank you sweetheart – thankfully the photo you have witnessed wasn’t at close distance. 400 just a number but when I realised I thought… OMG…really? I thank you for following me for so long and liking my dark side ( I like it too) Hugssss to you and your girls xxx

  2. Well said and we are living proof that by taking an interest you can find a friend on the other side of the world that you will most likely never meet.
    Also there are far to many out there who take and never return.
    Anyway – shut up Ros – I love what you write and the consistency with which you do it – Keep it up hun…xx

    • I’ll drink to that! oopsey perhaps I should slow down or I won’t make any sense at all soon. Yes I do agree – making a friend on the other side of the world is precious and what’s to say if we decide to visit that country that we won’t meet πŸ™‚ (did that make sense?)
      2nd point yes’m should be more givers – feel like sitting in a field and making daisy chains and singing Kumbaya .
      3rd the consistency may slow once I have a job…oh if this were my job – it would be heaven sent to write to talk and get to know others… dream on Rambles.
      Thank you darling – luv ya face xxx

  3. I come because their is a beautiful not wrinkled woman on the other side. She may be virtual but feels very real to me and I love her…as do many others. Great post, Mumsy xxxxxx

  4. Nicely put πŸ™‚ Being true to yourself resonates highly with me. And I thank you for leaving comments on my blog. Much appreciated and like you say…..that’s how we get to “know” each other. πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Tracy, I am so pleased that people are not being offended or taken this out of the context for which it was written. You are welcome for the comments and I thank you for mine. Walks off singing “Getting to you know you, getting to know all about you” πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ x

  5. This is a great post – and I am guilty of breaking commandment # 3, yes! My justification is that I want the writer to have another comment and to know that I did, indeed, think the post was great, even though I might not have anything else to add. I also occasionally do that because I’m running out of time. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it! πŸ™‚ I very much agree with what you are saying, however, and understand where you are coming from but I also try to leave as much room as possible for people making errors. Yesterday I accidentally hit “like” on my own post – now, that’s either really careless or there’s something Freudian going on! Thanks so much for always coming by and making comments even when the topic isn’t up your alley – your efforts have been much appreciated! πŸ™‚

    And now, having said all that, may I re-blog?

    • Guilty you say!!!! Off to the gallows young lady πŸ˜‰ You made me laugh about hitting your own like button! Thank You for appreciating the visits, you have raised #11 in that πŸ™‚ liking or commenting even if the subject isn’t up your alley indeed, I guess it’s the time restrictions there, if you have 70 posts coming in that you have or want to reply to and Joe Blow comes up with my adventures with my worm garden…seriously…do I? πŸ˜‰ You are welcome and I THANK YOU for appreciating my visits and comments. This is what this is about sharing, a little community of writers that have something to say. Hell here I go again waffling, so yes I shall leave and yes my sweet you may re-blog, in fact I am honoured that you wish to do. I have corrected and put on this post reblogging welcome, so for anyone else feel free to do so without asking ‘permission’.

      xxx πŸ™‚

  6. Great points here Jen! They all make a lot of sense! I guess I’ve never given much thought about blogging etiquette but now that you have pointed it out there really is and I think you have tackled them all! I think the thing I always question the most is what if what I’m writing is too boring, too silly, no one will understand etc. so I just have to keep reminding myself that we all have a voice and this is what my life is about so that is what I am going to write about! Also, congratulations on 400 posts…I don’t know how you do it!!! Good job!

    • Thank you so much Mel. I am glad it made sense (after a scotch or several) last night I was beginning to confuse myself. I had to get Mr. S in fact to come and read to make sure that it did! 😦 Do not question, you have many followers who appreciate your style, your photos and your terrific sense of humour. I’m not into crafts as you know , but I read yours because it involves your kids. BE TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR PASSION πŸ™‚ I write prolifically, being out of work, I have the day to sit and ramble. I get slight guilts that I am bombarding, but that is what I need to do to get me through my exciting day…hence the 400th coming up so quickly πŸ˜‰ Thanks Mel for enjoying what I wrote πŸ™‚ xx

  7. where should I start??? That you are my Mommy Mentor, that you write from the heart, that I feel I can tell you anything although we have never actually met (and I wonder if we will ever meet), that I am always super happy for your comments because I know in my heart that you look out for me??? Anyway…thank you for being there, thank you for taking the time to read and comment, thank you for everything. Lots & lots of love, xxx, T

    • Oh T how adorable are you – thank you so much for all your beautiful words xxxxx
      I hope that ‘Blogging Etiquette’ means something to everyone, not because I wrote it, but for what it stands for. Warm and fuzzy – and yes you can tell me anything, love back to you xx

  8. I love this! These are definately great rules …errr… commandments to live by nod nods. Though … of late, I have been slack on #’s 1 and 2. Ohhh … that is badddddd.

    And I break #4 all the time. But I think I can excuse myself because I am Irish and gabby?!?!?!?! Haha

    Wonderful blog post Mumsy.

    • Firstly I love that you ARE Irish and GABBY, your posts are never long as others I have seen, that make me cringe with the length, knowing I couldn’t possibly get through them. 1 and 2 – I forgive you πŸ™‚
      Thank you sweet – if you wish to spread the word – please do so πŸ™‚ xxx

  9. I agree with every one of your commandments and congrats on the success of your blog. I know that everything you say is genuine and that is what makes me keep coming back to read.

    • Awww precious lady thank you, sometimes perhaps I feel I am too genuine…or more so…tell too much of me, but that is who I am and I shall remain faithful to myself and my ramblings.

  10. Just stumbled across this post via another blog – every point you make is justified. As a relatively new blogger and still finding my way around, I had started questioning why some people “like” when In returning to their blog I find that we are poles apart and doubt they even read my whole post in the first place. Call me cynical, but I’d rather have a few “followers” with genuine interest than loads of likers who couldn’t care less and who are only interested in inflating their stats!

    • Hi Jenny – welcome and thank you for reading. It is ok to be cynical as there are those who follow specifically to inflate their stats as you mention. Those that stick by you and take an interest in not only what you write but with you as a person are your true followers and the ones to be treasured. I wish you luck with your site and stepping cautiously through the minefield of the blog-o-sphere πŸ™‚

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