Chat time – the good the bad and the ugly

Perhaps if it were a full moon last night, I would understand my mood yesterday. Alas it wasn’t, but mood swings strike at even given moment with me. I wonder if others are the same?

I wasn’t prolific in my writing, I thought I would save you all from my moaning and groaning, when there are others far worse off than I.

Last Saturday I took my penguins to a funeral – Catholic ~ one and a half hours of workout, sit,kneel,stand. I am not religious but I stood when was required as I do not mock or disregard other peoples faith.

Pop and mum sat as it was too much for them to stand each time and pop was having a particularly bad day walking and on his legs.

There was one amusing incident, when the priest rang the bells, mum tuttered loudly, I asked what was wrong, she answered someone has their mobile phone on….ok bless.

As I struggled holding mums hand and onto pops walker, so we could walk up the slight incline to see the wife of the deceased (a friend of pops for 40 years) dad started to cry and said ” I’ll be seeing my mate soon” … Yes that started me, so with held back tears I walked them slowly to the car.

During the service which was quite beautiful, the priest read a piece that George (dec) had written for his own eulogy.

He was 88 and had trouble walking, like Pop. He passed in his sleep, may he RIP.

This got me thinking and I asked Pop if he would consider writing something for his Eulogy, that I could read (if I’m able) he agreed and now has written over 1000 words about his life. He acknowledges that it needs to be ‘culled’ edited, but he wants to write it and I am so very proud of him. Who better to write about their life than the person I ask.

I conducted my 1st burial last Wednesday in 40c heat, it wasn’t pleasant, but the family were lovely and invited me back for refreshments and got a chair for me and drinks and sandwiches.

6 children in the family, 19 grandchildren and 29 great grandchildren, who let balloons off at the burial site. Despite the horrific conditions, it was beautiful to witness.

I received a call after I wrote my 2 pieces yesterday and I have another burial next Wednesday, this will be my 8th. A disabled man who passed at the age of 48. To get to know the family’s, their story, their lives, is what makes this calling so worthwhile to me.

So in finishing my chat today, thank you for bearing with me yesterday, for putting up with this Aussie who can be very melancholy one minute and high as a kite the next.

I will get there, I know I will, especially with the support and love of those who continue to read me and I thank each and everyone of you for your kindness, encouragement and unwavering support.

It truly means a lot to me, you are not just readers in different parts of the world, you are my neighbours, my friends, my confidants and you get me through the good the bad and the ugly.

Know that if you need me, I am here for you too, in whatever capacity I can be.

Thank you my virtual friends and those I have met in person ~ I think the world of you and love you.


32 thoughts on “Chat time – the good the bad and the ugly

  1. I can see why this job would be a very meaningful one, and I can also see how you would do great at this. I love your writings, you are so in touch with your emotions and are readily able to place those thoughts on paper (screen) which is such a refreshing thing.

    And I think that we all have these mood swings you talk of (well I do at least!)

    Keep on, keepin’ on, because you are awesome!

    • Hello lyn, thank you so very much, you are very kind to have written this. Perhaps I’m too in touch with my emotions, up and down constantly. I am so happy that you read me and that you enjoy what I do, the good the bad and the ugly. You have made me blush, never set out to be awesome, so hugs for saying what you did. Thank you. xx

  2. Lovely post Jenny, you are doing a great job in difficult circumstances and through it all your beautiful personality shines through. You bring such great comfort to the people you provide such meaningful services for. We are lucky to have you as our friend.

  3. Love you, Jen. Keep up the great work. I love the fact that your mum thought someone had their mobile phone on. We have to have a giggle sometimes – even when the circumstances are very sad. Hugs xxx

    • The look on her face was priceless such indignation..yes it was a humorous moment, thankfully none of the Congregation heard her. Love you too sunshine and thank you so very much for being supportive of G.B & U’s (hugs) xx

  4. My dear MM, first of all, we love you right back (and some more)!
    I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been for you to ask your dad to write his own eulogy but I think it will be a great gift to hold on to when the time comes. And for your dad to get it all out and find some closure will give him the peace everyone seeks as the years go by.
    I am here for you whenever you need. Lots of love xxx

    • Thank you my lovely T as I do you – I hope you are doing okay..out of bed?
      Your words are true, I think I will also write mine…perhaps a little later on though. It would be a peaceful closure – so thank you for saying that, also comforting knowing that ‘you’ have written on your life, how you would like it read. Thank you sweetheart ~ just having one of my ugly bad days yesterday, feel a bit better today (hugs & love) xxx

    • Yes in a way I guess I am Tess, I’m getting better as I go, just the underlying family situation at home is hard to resolve, but nothing at this point I can do, so ..onward and upward. Thank you hun xx

  5. So happy you will have your Dad’s on words to pull from when the time comes for him to go wonder if I can ask my Mom to do this next time I travel down to see her.

  6. jen, i think this is fantastic idea. i think that these loved ones are so lucky to have you, someone who truly cares about honoring those who have passed. no worries about the ups and downs, we all have them, and i’m a fan of roller coasters anyway )

    • I blush so often when your write your comments and you make me smile – so thank you. Pop has finished his ‘Eulogy’ he just sent it and I am yet to read it as I have the Service to concentrate on. My roller coaster ride has almost reached the top for now…fasten seat belts. 🙂 xxx

  7. Oh my gosh, your mom is too cute. That made me laugh, but then your dad writing his Eulogy I got a big lump in my throat. Life with our elderly parents is quite emotional, isn’t it? By the way, I think I lost a few decibels in my hearing after my last visit to see my parents. The television was so loud and then the screaming I mean conversation over it….my nerves were shot too. You know I love them…just saying I HEAR you.

    • she can be at times… others hmmm… Yes quite emotional and you made me laugh about your parents and the TV – mine are the same to the point sometimes, if I phone them they don’t answer because they can’t hear the phone. Then I rush over there only to see them watching the Tennis! Gawd luv em – thank you darling. xxx

  8. We are here for you, Jen and hugs to you my friend. Doing what you do takes emotional strength, wisdom and discretion. No doubt you do it with great aplomb and receive the rewards of people’s stories. If can be a little draining, it’s no wonder. Replenish how you need.

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