A Review of my memoir The Empty Nest – A Mother’s Hidden Grief

I have just met Michael on WP and he very kindly bought my Memoir and may I say read it within a day or two. He has been absolutely gracious by submitting a review on Amazon which I post below.

Those who know me, also know that I do not push my book onto you, this is not why I started this site, for I feel uneasy about self promoting. I post this because I am humbled knowing that people have read my work, read the words that I had written, this is an absolute joy for me, whether they like what I have written or not, I have pride that I can call myself a writer, something I have dreamed about for so long.

My penned words about what I experienced when my girls left home, have now been read by 72 people – this may seem small – to me it is huge. Large profits – I make not – knowing that people can resonate with what I have written – that is worth so much more.

To Michael I thank you, from the bottom of my heart for this review.

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Review

The Empty Nest

A Mother’s Hidden Grief

J M Kadane

Jenny Kadane’s book chronicling her life bringing up two daughters is an excellent account of her life exploring the journey she makes with them from birth to the present time. She takes us through the good and the bad moments of parenting with great honesty and clarity.

Her writing is straightforward, accessible and at times you find your self laughing at the funny things she recalls but there are other times where you find yourself expressing your own emotional response to the stories many of which, as a parent, you relate to.

There are features within this text that give it a universal appeal.

As parents we all have to deal with the day our children decide it is time for them to leave home.

We often agonise over them leaving, fearful of what they will have to deal with in the big wide world and always we want to be protective of them.

No parent ever wants to see their child suffering and we go to great lengths to provide support and back ups for the times when they do break free and leave the nest.

All of these issues are dealt with in great detail and the reader is able to easily empathise with the writing and sentiments being expressed.

There are times in this text where Ms Kadane comes across as a highly emotional woman. (In fact she does make the point at various times in her work that she was aware of her emotional outpourings.)

Rather than being a text, which could have descended into a study of emotional angst, she is clever in reflecting constantly on her own emotions, and on the significance of the events that occur in her life.

Ms Kadane’s daughters, like most children grow and become their own persons.  As a parent we know our children do not grow up to necessarily reflect our attitudes nor do they always do what you would wish for them to do.

The factor for me, which made me connect so readily with her words, was the attitude that she was always there for her girls. It is easy to say these things but as a parent when your children transgress from what you consider the norms of society and test your patience and fortitude ‘hanging in there with them’ can take great courage.

‘The Empty Nest” is a record of the love of a mother, the fierce determination to be the best mother she can be along with her own reflections and understandings of how each development in her daughters lives impacted on her.

As a male reader I was immediately taken by the depth of her writing. I could relate so well to the emotions she was experiencing.

Fathers also feel a sense of grief when their children leave. We like to have our children ‘within’ arms length’ so to speak. Like Ms Kadane we also crave a regular contact with our children.

You finish the text thinking what a brave woman she is to have sat and reflected as she has done on her life. She owns all the mistakes she admits she’s made, there is no glossing over the truth and for this reason the book has great value to other mothers and I might add fathers as well.

No reader will regret the time spent on this excellent book. A great read.

Michael Grogan

Parent

Teacher

July 2013.

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Back in April, Meditating Mummy also read and wrote a review, to her I am immensely grateful. I am ‘chuffed’ that people have taken the time to read and to write their thoughts. You may see her review on the below link.

Reblogged from Meditating Mummy’s Blog:

I thank you.

Super Sweet Blogging Award

From radaronelson (Seasons of Insanity)

Don’t they look delish???

I was kindly nominated under http://emptynestdotme.wordpress.com   – Please note that I haven’t closed this site down due to having comments on there and I don’t want to just obliterate them from the face of the planet, so I leave it open, however this site ramblingfromamum is my main one. Now that I have cleared that all up… taa daaaa

This kind nomination was from

http://radaronelson.wordpress.com (Aka – Seasons of Insanity)

I have told Mr Radar 🙂 that I will do a blog as my expression of gratitude for him for my nomination and to list the other sites that he nominated so that all may take a peek.

The broken road – This guy has truly been through a lot and his post really convey that.  He’s a great guy and I recommend eveyone check him out.

Fat bottom Girl Said What – This chick really makes me laugh.  She found me through another follower and I am so glad she did.  I really can’t say enough about her.  So go follow her.

WalkTenPaces – The laughing duck is truly unique….just like the rest of us.  She has some great posts and great comments so check her out.

Another Wondering Soul – If your into Poetry this is the place to go.  She has some great stuff and i highly recommend her.

Lady Or Not Here I Come – Rebecca is truly hillarious.  I laugh at every single one of her posts.  You have to go follow her for no other reason then to put a smile on your face on those bad days.

B(itch) Log – I’m sure everyone saw my last guest blogger.  This is her.  Heather holds no bars and says what she wants.  If your not already a follower you need to be.

survivingmiddleage – She always has great posts like calling after hours, a pet peave of mine, so check her out I know you’ll enjoy her page.

terry1954 – If your looking for a down to earth blog this is the one for you.  This blog truly does have some good reading on it.

Mitten’s Kittens Blog – What more can I say about Jessica then she has been freshly pressed.  Wow.  She does have a great blog and I recommend it to everyone.

Sex, Spirit, Soul Mates and Chocolate….Ivonne’s Journey – I can’t not nominate Ivonne.  She is truly amazing, her blog is amazing, her conversations are funny.  Check her out NOW and FOLLOW HER!

Prego and the Loon – This woman is inspiring.  What more can I say.  I think that really says everything.  So go follow her, you will be glad you did.

Elettra.me – This blog is unique.  It’s not a personal blog per say but they are always there reading my blogs so I wanted to ensure they are noticed.  I do follow them and they do have some great posts.

And now for my honorable mention.

Shanpagne all around – My wife, my love.  She is an awesome writer, blogger, storyteller, and all around awesome person.  She isn’t big on these awards which is why I made her an honorable mention.  So she can post she won the award but no worry about going through picking 13 people to nominate.  If your not following her or viewing her blog, your missing out.  So go now, follow her, and be merry.

I shan’t put the Award on my side bar thingy – because I’m not doing the requirements – which I think only fair.

So I thank you from my beaty thing for the nomination and I hope you will accept this post as my gratitude.

🙂