One,Ein,Un,Uno,Een,Um….First (Prose)

the first time I made love/erm
NO hell ~ not love
Sex~young/disjointed hmmm kisses ~ yes
you will love me afterwards???
~ who was I kidding
behind the shelter sheds/- a teenager
that’s all I’ll say/ I won’t reveal my age

the first time I hitchhiked ? dangerous~
girlfriend and I thumbs up to the sky
travelled far that day
Until a ‘coupla’ lads ~ deviated behind some trees
tried to/Well you know – we were just kids~
we escaped and ran away

the first time I left home?
Yes there was more than one time
I thought that I could make it on my own
bah-boom ~ only to return

the first time I drove a CAr ~ red it was
the colour hot & fast
I drove up to our hills not far from here
and just ~ well sat

the first time I was MArried – no it’s
only been the once ~ it lasted 19 years
gave me my girls~ made me a mum

the first time I gave birth/ ARGH!
you must be KIDDING me ~ give me an epidural
can’t you see the pain I’m in??

the first time I fell really in LOve
many many times-
Ech/ Lust or love hmm scratches
head – CRap too many rhymes

the first time I found my soul mate
yep Mr. S you know him by
my rock~ my everlasting
hmm his kisses in the night

the first time I sold a book/OK
so it’s not the paper kind
~ the SP type electronic
but it simply blew my mind

the first time I started ‘blogging’
I still HAte that word so much
scared of what would be said
now I’m **ADDIC-A-TED**

the first time I conducted a Service
for the bereaved family
/I knew I found my calling
my life mapped out for me

First times that I have had a broken heart – a blade twisting in my gut
First times of shedding tears over loving WAY too much
First times for knowing my life was going to change
First times of seeing my elderly parents – knowing nothing would be the same

Many many 1st times – some good & not this is for MLM’s Prompt simply about Firsts.

Dances of life

Quick step
climb the tree house
cordial   IS        wine
doctors and nurses
show me            yours
I’ll show you mine
puppy love
restrictions   giggles
hormones           race
do you            love me
am I                pretty
am I                handsome
will I     do
shall I             tell you
how my heart      jumps
how do I        kiss
do I                linger
mouth     closed
or       open
body          heat
head flings back
grip waists
move        rhythmically
guitar      cello
we only     hear us
front to front
eyes locked
passion             erotic
touch my chin
my face
kiss me
two as one
different rhythm
teared eyes meet
of the years
an arm well known
holds my back
love remains
we kiss
with opened mouth
the dances
of life




First kiss and where did it lead?


We kissed
not knowing
what a kiss meant
children young


but as we grew
friendship transformed
to true binding love
heartfelt and warm

this is the place
where we took
our vows on the sand
committed our lives
to walk
hand in hand

and this is us now
I look back on those years
the first kiss that we took
our crush in school years
our wedding
the joys of
the children I bore
moving houses
the mortgages
the debts and

grandparents_2241892b the grandchildren
the family
that’s ours
the first kiss
that started
what we have now

and yes we make love
we hold hands and we kiss
we share precious moments
and won’t relinquish
what we feel for each other
our love or our bond
our bodies have changed
but our love is still strong


we give thanks to the children
we were on that day and
give thanks to each other
that our love has remained

‘A little bit of the warm and fuzzies’

Keeping the romance..

I have learnt whilst blogging that your Title can mean you get read or left on the shelf  – I have no clue what will happen with this one 🙂

Losing love in a relationship/marriage and what the heck can we do about it?

The Movie – Hope Springs – The Actors the brilliant Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones promoted me to write this.  Probably not a movie for the 20- 30 year old bracket, unless of course you are already in a similar relationship.

So this is why I thought I would blog my thoughts to the men and also the women. How many books are written on relationships? How many seek counselling to find their way back to the relationship they once had with their partner, and how many of you decide it’s all too hard to try? Finally how many of you just fall ‘out of love’?

It can be the smallest of actions that help us in relationships, but you have to WANT to try those small things. Yes, from our teens to probably our 40’s we couldn’t get enough of everything physical. Some younger readers of this blog are probably even grimacing at the thought of people in their 40’s and beyond actually ‘doing it’. Reality check – we do!

As we get older though our relationships take on a different kind of intimacy. We aren’t hell bent on hitting the sack every 5 minutes as in our youth, and we are settled and happy with sharing a different kind of closeness. The closeness of your partner who is also your friend, who you can share conversations about everything and anything with and with whom yes the physical side is still there but probably not as often.

Share the tiny things.

Reach out and grab your partners hand when you are walking together or sitting on the couch. Pay that compliment when they are dressed nicely, even if you have seen them wear that outfit a hundred times before. Tell them how handsome, attractive, sexy,beautiful they look. Spontaneously cup their face in both hands and kiss them or even just smile.

Listen when they speak to you, don’t get glassy eyed when they come home tired from work and need to vent. Really take an interest in what they have to say. Show them that you know you are listening by commenting on what they have said. If they do housework for you without being asked – thank them. In fact manners can help a relationship – don’t let them feel they are being taken for granted. We all want to be appreciated.

So many women get frustrated with their partners because they are usually working full-time and must come home to cook dinners or see to the kids, or shop etc. Resentment can build so quickly – nip it in the bud. All it takes (men are you listening) is to offer to help or even JUST DO. Don’t wait to be asked – grab that mop and bucket or vacuum cleaner. It may seem insignificant or trivial but it isn’t. Ladies offer to mow the lawn,wash his car, put the bins out? We want to be treated as equals but feel that there are jobs that are designated only to men, yet we would love them to help us out with our ‘female’ chores.

Women withhold sex – it’s a punishment we have devised over time

Our reasoning is  “You don’t appreciate me’  “You don’t know how hard I work”  “You never offer to help me”

“All you think about is what you want”  So why in gods name would we ‘put out’ – ‘have sex’ or want any kind of personal intimacy with you!

Hands up how many women have thought this? Hands up how many men have an idea that this is the reason they don’t want to go to bed with you?

Resentment – vindictiveness – disappointment – stubbornness..ahh tis a vicious circle indeed.

We know men and women are from different planets (I’m sure you have all read the book) man goes into his cave – women want to talk about it.

With each relationship we learn.

With every relationship we enter into, we learn something different. When we enter a new relationship we have to draw from those in the past to guide us in what we should or shouldn’t do with our new one. We have all had our hearts crushed and broken seemingly beyond repair to the point we feel there is no one else out there for us, only to find (perhaps not just around the corner) but pretty damn close that there is someone else.

And when you find that someone – the one who is your friend and also your lover (whatever age) they are worth holding to. We can’t make the same mistakes we did in the past, to flourish means to nurture.

Remember it’s the small things not necessarily the large that help our relationships.

Spontaneity is loved by females (I’m sure I’m not only talking about myself here)  – and I am sure males enjoy acts of kindness and being pampered without being asked. How good do we feel about our partner when they have helped around the house or the yard on their own accord?  Paid us a compliment or booked a romantic night or week-end away – a bunch of flowers for her or something that he would love? We feel EXCELLENT  – the key is not to let it slide – maintain it – continue it.

I’m not saying Life’s like a box of chocolates – Yep It ain’t  all peaches and cream and gooey eyes in our relationships, there are everyday battles for all of us.

We don’t have to have the Christian Grey – Anastashia relationship or the Kate and Arnold (Meryl Tommy Lee Jones) either… BUT –  Love can flourish – Intimacy can be preserved – it just takes s small amount of hard can that be?

Yes the Movie inspired me to write this  blog and I would love to have any comments from those that may read it.

“AH YES HOPE SPRINGS”  and PS I’m as happy in my relationship as pig in the proverbial (in case you wondered) 🙂

Holding Hands

REACH for my hand my little one, as your first steps bring you into my arms.

CLING to my hand my little one, as we look both ways before we cross.

BLOW me a kiss with your hand my little one, as I leave you on your first day of kinder.

WAVE your hand excitedly my little one, as you enter the schoolyard gates.

GRASP tight my hands my little one, as you cry with your first broken heart.

CLUTCH my hands with joy my little one, when you have met the man of your dreams.

SQUEEZE my hand my now grown up one, as you travel your own path.

R for how remarkable you both are.

C for how captivating you both can be

B for beautiful beyond words

W for words can’t describe how I love you both

G for the gladness you both bring to my heart

C for how charming you both are

S for so many years of happiness you have brought me

To my girls.